You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew. ~ Albert Einstein
One of the most important ways to help yourself and your addicted child is through education. Learn about your child's disease, about co-dependency, and that you and your family are not alone in the disease of addiction.
Addict in the Family, Beverly Conyers
What family members can do is find support, set boundaries, detach with love, and eventually discover how to enjoy life whether their loved one finds recovery or not. It is also a book of comfort, hope, and understanding for anyone struggling with a loved one's addiction.
Everything Changes, Beverly Conyers
Many changes come with new-found sobriety. This book will help you navigate the many challenges that are part of this stage of recovery, including setting and maintaining boundaries, avoiding enabling, coping with relapse, and, most important, building a fresh, rewarding relationship with your loved one.
If You Love Me: A Mother's Journey Through Her Daughter's Opiod Addiction, Maureen Cavanaugh
The story of a mother who suddenly finds herself on the frontlines of the opioid epidemic as her daughter battles–and ultimately reckons with–substance use disorder. Cavanaugh provides a vivid account of the disease of addiction, the heartbreak it carries, and the message to never give up hope.
The Joey Song, Sandra Swenson
The Joey Song is the poignant story of a defiant addict and the mother who won't give up on him. She finally realizes that it hurts more to hang on than to let go, and that letting go is not the same thing as giving up. Sandra Swenson beautifully orchestrates a mother's lessons of love and loss, while surviving her son's addiction.
Tending Dandelions, Sandra Swenson
In the shadows of our child's struggles with addiction, we find ourselves tending to a life for which we weren't prepared. Yet that place also holds great opportunity for personal growth. These meditations provide encouragement and understanding for those who are realizing that recovery rarely follows a neat or comfortable path.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown
Our embarrassments and fears often lie to us. They tell us we are not worthy. But we are. Both parents and their addicted children need to cultivate feelings of self-worth, as well as acceptance and love for themselves. Brené Brown shows us how to dig deep to find gratitude and our truth.
The Lost Years, Kristina Wandzilak and Constance Curry
A mother and addicted daughter tell their stories in alternating voices. The Lost Years is a beautifully written memoir of survival and transformation that reminds us all that so much good can come from so much that is bad.
As the leading publisher of addiction recovery and self-help books, Hazelden Publishing provides resources to help those suffering from a substance use disorder and their families learn to recognize, understand and overcome addiction.
HEALING THROUGH WRITING: Taking Care of Yourself
Writing Through Your Story, with Marcelle Soviero
We heal through telling our stories. Recovery is further facilitated by integrating the brain's right and left side. Speaking comes from the left brain, writing the left. Make sense of the chaos through writing your story, whether that be an essay or a memoir, or the practice of keeping a journal. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org , writer, story teller, editor.
The Sober World is an award winning national monthly magazine that offers a range of articles from those who have found recovery to professionals who offer their expertise and insight. A comprehensive list of resources provides information on finding the help - and hope - needed by those suffering from addiction and their families.
SAMHSA - Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration
SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders. Hotline number:1-800-662-HELP (4357).
Partnership to End Addiction
Resources to help address your son or daughter's substance use, whether you've just discovered it or whether you need a new approach.
Caring, experienced, and expert staff who will find and help you get the right treatment for you or your loved one,
A thought-provoking interview series hosted by William C. Moyers:
Everything You Think You Know About Addiction Is Wrong, by Johann Hair
Watch this Ted Talk by NY Times best-selling author Johann Hari. He explores the way addiction is often handled and wonders if there is a better way -- connection.